CHANGES IN FAMILY DYNAMICS DURING COVID-19

The Covid-19 pandemic has impacted our everyday lives in ways we could have never imagined or prepared for. This blog will focus on the changes to our family dynamics. I want to discuss two topics that will help you to manage some of the changes that you are experiencing. The two subjects that will be covering are:

• Managing your expectations while working from home
• Parenting/teaching your child and how to talk with your children about the changes that have occurred in your family dynamic

Let’s start with managing your expectations while working from home. Face it you are not at the office and there are many distractions that simply did not exist before your current situation. Factor those changes into your choices and adjust your new normal accordingly. Look below for a few suggestions to keep yourself on track.

• Set expectations based on your current situation not what was previously achievable. 

• Be honest about time commitment and try not to fill every minute of the hour with a task

• Expectations should be flexible not rigid (stay away from all or nothing thinking)

• Share your new expectations with all those involved including partners and other family members in your household including children

• Comprise as needed

Now let’s discuss how to talk with your children about the new changes.  It is important to tailor the message to fit the age and temperament of your child or children. There may not be a one size fits all message, but you know your child or children the best.  Keep the following points in mind during your discussion: 

• Kids need consistency but they are also resilience.

      What can you do every day to add consistency to a child’s routine? 

       Some simple solutions can in include bedtimes routines or family night

• Let them know it is safe to chat about their feelings as much as they want. Keep in mind, most kids will return to the topic after the initial conversation

• Try not to rush problem solving when they want to chat about their feelings. Make sure to listen to and acknowledge their feelings.

• Most importantly, comfort or problem solve with your child or children, and ask them what will help them feel better. 

Feel free to contact me to discuss any questions that you have. Stay encouraged. 

B. Carter